Man & Woman – Beautiful Comparison

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.

Married men live longer than single men.
But married men are a lot more willing to die.

Any married man should forget his mistakes.
No sense two people remembering the same thing

Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change and she does.

A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

The Distinction (Difference) Between Love And Attachment

Attachment is a mental state. It is a relationship we have with someone in our own minds. When we become attached to someone we use their image to fill our mind. We find our thoughts are constantly filled with their image and the memories of their behaviour. It is not that we should never think about others, it is more about thinking about others only when it is necessary, and as we do so, to make sure we don’t lose our self in their image. This will finally free us of dependency. Symptoms of attachment, can be found when there is any personal desire or expectation of the other person. Desire causes the change of the energy of our love into fear. We forget we are already a source of what we have been taught to need and desire. Attachment desires, love never desires and it has no expectations. It doesn’t need to! As soon as we have any desire from others, or expectations of others, and our happiness becomes dependent on the desire or expectation being met, we are already giving birth to fear and anger, otherwise known as negative emotions, otherwise known as stress, otherwise known as suffering. Love never causes pain, attachment does.

The biography of every human being who exhausts their life in empty purposes and meaningless attachments. Only a human being has the potential to realize the infinite Self. That is the purpose of human existence. But intoxicated with lust and passion, he falls to the depths of degradation. Realizing the plight of man feels the pain and laments, Alas!

The obsession of human mind to the world at different stages of his growth in life and as a result he completely misses the higher aspect of life.

As a child one helplessly runs after playthings. During childhood your interest and attention is only upon the toys and play. We spend our childhood with our attachments to toys.

When the child grows up to be a youth, his vitality is dissipated in lust and passion for his beloved as well as unrealistic ambitions and an obsession for success, power, position, name and fame.

As old age creeps in, his head is laden with worries and anxieties, fears and insecurities arising from his own past selfish activities. We become a prisoner of past worries. He constantly worries about his children’s future, grandchildren’s safety and so on. Every activity is associated with anxiety, tension and fear and in the process, most of us forget to live ourselves.

Thus, our entire life is consumed by attachment to something or the other. We do not have any time or inclination to find out what is the essence of life, to surrender to something beyond the terrestrial attachment!

DIFFERENCES BETWEEN LOVE AND LIKE

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster.

But in front of the person you like, you get happy.

In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring

But in front of the person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter.

If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.

But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.

In front of the person you love, you can’t say everything that is on your mind.

But in front of the person you like, you can say everything that is on you mind.

In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.

But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.

The person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes.

You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love

But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.

When the one you love is crying, you cry with them

But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.

The feeling of love starts from the eye.

And the feeling of like starts from the ear.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like,

All you need to do is cover your ears,

But if you try to close your eyes,

Love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever after.

Emotional Intelligence

The ability to pick up others emotions is something we can all do naturally.The fastest way to learn to be sensitive to and identify others emotional states is to learn to read our own. If we cannot inwardly read and identify  our own emotions it will be impossible to do this for others.

The great danger of getting too close to others emotions is that we fall into them and create the same emotions ourselves. This is often seen as one of the pillars of friendship in an emotional relationship. But to fall into and create and experience the same emotions as another is not sympathy, and  it doesn't help them climb out of their disturbance. Hence the need to practice 'detached involvement', a process whereby we stay sufficiently detached to be able to accurately read and understand the emotions of another while staying sufficiently involved with them so we may offer our help to them.

                                                         

Happiness

Happiness is the undying quest of life, the unquenchable thirst and the insatiable hunger of all human kind. Happiness is what we all seek for, what we long for. But can such bliss be nothing but an elusive state of mind, which is here one moment and gone the next, or is such a positive outlook attainable for a lifetime? Perhaps it is, it just is.

Happiness is always a by-product.  It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular.  But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.

Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier.  The way it actually works is the reverse.  You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

Happiness is as a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.

Everything is material for the seed of happiness, if you look into it with inquisitiveness and curiosity. 

J

Life is Beautiful

This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, somg go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up becuase if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.


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Relationship

Don`t we all come to this world as guests—constantly striving to find the golden rule of a successful rapport with everybody and everything we come across? From birth to death a person`s success or failure is measured by the kind of relationship he/ she has had with elements of this world: people. Nature and beyond it all, with the spirit behind this "relative world". But striking the right chord in a relationship often proves a hard nut to crack.

The world seems to constantly echo with a disconcerting chorus of voices, the result of frustrated relationships between parents and their children, husbands and wives, friends, siblings, in-laws, employees and colleagues—individuals disillusioned with themselves for not being able to relate successfully to their environs.

The most interesting aspect of this scenario is that, today there happens to be no dearth of methods to arrive at that elusive "success" in the act of relating.

The phenomenal flux of changes in every sphere of our lives since the last century has redefined the role of human relationships. Social revolutions such as the women`s lib, the cult of the individual, and even the human potential movement have repatterned the basic premises of relationships. A good relationship today is not one that just lasts but one that coexists with self-respect, individuality and the need to grow.

For it to thrive successfully, marriage counselors and psychologists, also, stress the need for this kind of "space" within a couple`s relationship. An individual in a marriage shouldn`t be a repository of one`s own needs and desires, in fact both the people involved should be totally committed to their relationship. They must be ready to take responsibility for themselves as well as the relationship.

How to Make Relationships Work:

• Don`t try too hard to convince the other person of your love. Love and trust yourself more. This will relax your love defenses and enable you to give yourself totally to relationship.

• Don`t question the other person`s love all the time.

• Feel the oneness of the universe.Step beyond the `me first` conflicts that mar relationships. This would help you be complete within yourself.

• Don`t use your relationships to fulfill your expectations.

• Know yourself. Analyze the cause of your reactions.

• Acknowledge the other person as an individual. Grow and let grow.

• In a conflicting relationship, check where you went wrong rather than where the other person failed. Listen to each other. Communication strengthens the foundation of a relationship.

• Take the first step in working out a relationship without worrying about who is in the right. Don`t depend on any person and don`t let the other person depend on you.